Some American soldiers returning home physical wounds, some have emotional wounds, and some have both. Estimates show that at least 10% of all returning veterans will have symptoms of post-traumatic shock or stress. "Common responses seen in these individuals include anger, depression, increased use of alcohol/drugs, difficulty with interpersonal relationships, and reminders of trauma such as nightmares and flashbacks," says Isabelle Duguay of Bensinger, DuPont & Associates, a leading provider of employee assistance programs. "It´s important to realize that while these symptoms may occur immediately after their return home, there may also be a delayed response which means that the symptoms may not surface for weeks or months after their return."
Duguay cautions that some veterans may appear OK on the outside, yet may not be feeling that way inside. They may not know how to ask for help, who to ask, or what to ask for. Returning from deployment overseas is a very personal matter. Some individuals may feel comfortable talking about their experiences, others will not. She offers these ways to help:
Understand that everyone adjusts within his or her own individual time frame. Patience will go a long way in helping the returning soldier.
Provide emotional support as needed. Keep lines of communication open. Be the first to reach out, and let it be known that you are available to talk if wanted.
If you sense a soldier wants to discuss their experience, ask about the environment they were in. Sometimes venting, talking and just being able to describe the event or situation is very helpful.
If you sense someone does not want to talk about their tour overseas, respect their privacy. Simply let them know if they want to talk, you are available.
Believe them. The stories a returning solder may share with you may be unlike anything you have ever heard before, and likely won´t experience yourself first-hand. It´s important that they know you believe what they are telling you.
Most importantly, just listen. You don´t have to solve all the problems; you may not have the answers. You can help just by being present and listening.
Be aware that a returning soldier may need more than a friend or family member to talk to. While you can be a good support for them, they might also benefit from professional assistance. There are many resources available, such as an employer´s employee assistance program.
Bensinger DuPont & Associates is a privately owned professional services company that is dedicated to promoting healthy outcomes for employees, the workplace, individuals and their families through a wide range of consultation, training and counseling services. For additional information, Isabelle can be reached at 1-800-227-8620.
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