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It's OK to be Needy in Work or at Home

Posted by Dranitsaris/ Dranitsaris-Hilliard, Anne and Heather at Thursday, 12/06/2012 2:47 am
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Time to stop believing that there’s something wrong with you for having needs

Toronto, ON: November 20, 2012 – Research shows that our emotional needs are a physical reality and like any other appetite, they seek satisfaction. A brain based personality system called the Striving Styles shows us that we are all born with needs that are hard-wired in our brain from birth and should be trying harder to get them met rather than pretending that we aren’t “needy”. Unfortunately, the word “needy” is often used as an insult to make us think twice before asking for what we need, if we ask at all. In fact, most people hide or repress their needs because they fear others will see them as “needy” rather than simply human.

There are 8 distinct psychological needs that must be met in order to be psychologically secure. Each of the needs comes with its own set of behavioral patterns that seek to get the need met. One of these eight will be your predominant need – in essence, the alpha that most influences you. Getting to know our predominant need helps us to feel comfortable, as we know exactly what we are asking for and why. Asking for our needs to be met rather than becoming emotional when they are frustrated empowers us in every aspect of our lives.

“If asked to talk about what we need, most of us would struggle to come up with a response. Because we are trying so hard to pretend that we don’t have needs so that other’s don’t treat us like we have some rare, contagious disease, few of us know what they are, or how they shape our lives in terms of our motivation, priorities, relationships or careers. .”Anne Dranitsaris, Creator - Striving Styles Personality System

Because our psychological needs play such a vital role in our emotional and mental health, it is time to come clean about what we need so that we can start getting our need met. The Striving Styles shows us how our needs drive our behavior and the more we learn about how to get the met – at work, at home and in relationships – the greater ability we have to developing our potential and become who we are meant to be.

Striving Styles® Personality System is a neuro-psychological approach to understanding the innate needs that drive behavior and how to break instinctual patterns of behavior that get in the way of achieving potential. The book, Who Are You Meant To Be?, will be released January 8, 2013 in North America.

If you would like more information about this topic, or to schedule an interview with the Creators/Authors, Anne Dranitsaris and/or Heather Hilliard, please contact Heather at 416.406.3939 or